Talk About the Tough Stuff
There are ways to ensure a conversation is developmentally appropriate and supports learning, even when broaching difficult topics. “When kiddos feel connected to you, they’re paying attention,” Onnie Rogers says. “So when it comes to talking about issues of racism or sexism or violence — heavy, complex topics — [that] foundation is key.”
Keep it Relatable
Young kids don’t understand concepts like race or ethnicity in the abstract; they understand them in what they observe, so keep things connected to their lived experiences. “If you ask a 5-year-old, ‘What is race?’ without providing any context, they might say, ‘I'm going to [run faster than] you,’” Rogers says. “But if you talk about the concept of race by discussing where your family is from, the different skin colors in your community, the cultural traditions you celebrate, you can describe what race and ethnicity look like and how they are experienced.”
Find a Balance
“No one wants to terrify their kid,” Rogers says, “but awareness about the world is important.” If you’re explaining a violent event to young children, Rogers suggests being specific and saying something like, “There’s this area of the world where violence is happening. What’s upsetting mom right now is that a lot of people are getting hurt, and it’s scary and sad.” Children can then ask questions, build empathy and learn beyond their immediate experiences.
Encourage Collaboration
Among young children, engaging with peers helps boost learning. In a study by Courtney Blackwell, young children who shared an iPad performed better on literacy tests than those who had their own iPad or didn’t have an iPad at all. “When they shared iPads, they communicated with each other. … They had to negotiate, they had to take turns,” Blackwell says. “When the kids were using the iPads on their own, there was no engagement with others.”
Clare Milliken is senior writer and producer in Northwestern’s Office of Global Marketing and Communications.
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